The main problem that a guy faces when trying to kiss a girl is knowing if she's ready or not. If she isn't ready, he will probably end up with a slapped cheek, a freaked girl or a call the next day from the girl saying that she feels uncomfortable with the relationship.
Tips
- Some girls like a short kiss for the first kiss. Others like longer ones... see what she is doing and follow her.
- Kissing during an on screen kiss during a movie can sometimes be a good idea. Try doing it when you feel the tension has sufficiently mounted. Also, it's usually okay to go in for the kiss if you catch her looking at you during the movie.
- Look at the how to kiss a boy section-it has the signals that a girl wants to kiss you, like looking at your lips.
- It is probably best done in a private place, so that you two feel more comfortable.
- Offering to do it in a bed may make people uncomfortable, and they may feel pressured.
- You can put on some music to set the mood.
- You could try candles - they set a passionate mood. But be careful: don't overdo it! Girls like you for who you are, so be yourself! There is also the threat of a fire.
- Discussing what you and your partner like and dislike helps a lot when heading towards kissing.
- Make sure your breath smells good, clean -- use mints if you need to. (Note: sometimes the mints may not be enough. In that case, try using a little peroxide before you brush -- don't forget your tongue. And make sure to floss regularly. Most of the time, these steps can eliminate the need for gum or mints.)
- If you have braces, make sure they're clean.
- Talk to her while kissing each other. Girls like it if you whisper nice things. For example you can say something like: "You're beautiful" or "I dreamed of kissing you since I saw you the first time." You may want to come up with your own, because girls may think its cheesy if you have it rehearsed and practice talking while kissing: It´s important that your lips don't lose contact with hers while talking.
- Put your strong hand pointer finger under her chin. Tell her she's amazing, and lean in with a slight smirk.
- Don't come across as someone that just wants her in bed. Ever. Unless she has that kind of reputation. It all depends.
- Asking a girl if you can kiss her also works, because you make it a simple question with a yes or no answer and no complications. Say something like " I'd like to kiss you (name)"
- Slide your lips across hers a few times, without actually kissing her. This will drive her insane and make her extremly passionate when you finally do kiss her.
- During a pause, smile at her and laugh softly. Girls love this.
Warnings
- If your girlfriend is tired or not in the passionate mood, don't start the whole heavy breathing kissing thing because she may think you are a lust hungry freak.
- Think before you kiss on a first date. Rushing doesn't do anyone any good. Take it easy.
- Remember, friendship first, then love. But be careful to not get stuck in the "Friend's Box" where she doesn't know that you "like her".
- Don't lower your hands too far down if she's not comfortable with it. If you have before and she didn't say anything, chances are she likes it.
- Don't try to go in for a French kiss too quickly—sometimes this can startle a girl and make her feel pressured.
- If she pulls away or wants to stop, do not go for more. It makes her uncomfortable and that's bad.
- Don't force her into anything. If she says no, then stop, and she will be cool.
- Don't talk smack about her friends or close guy friends. She'll tell them.
- If she rejects you about anything, go with it. Don't run crying. Seriously, guys don't do that.
- Do not use gum to freshen up your breath. It builds up saliva in your mouth, which makes your breath worse.
- Please, don't do the "you paint it on and I take it off" when she's wearing lip gloss until you've been together for at least... 1 month. It comes across as really cool.
- If you lean forward, but she turns away, dont kiss her. It makes you look desperate.
